Emotions. Emotion! EMOTIONS! Cancer and emotion-what potentially dangerous combination.
Why?
Think about it, only you must act with searching, you have cancer, but also have to deal with feelings and emotions of people around you. It can be overwhelming! I'm not talking about a very stressful.
Firstly, there is little cancer information on the trade. And right now you don't need more stress in my life because it further burden, the immune system.
So, where to start?
Let's start from the beginning. Your conscious mind is the sub-feel a part of you-the emotional part of you. This is the part which may leave the trigger in your life, if that.
In the first place must recognize that it is the range of emotions. Furthermore, you must learn how to control your emotions. And finally, you must know how to move up the range of emotions.
The range of emotions, which ranges from best to worse-from pure joy and love to fear, sadness and depression.
Each one experience of our lives includes the emotions. Every experience touch at any point of the range of emotions. All experiences are different. And each is different-it's all respond the same way. Nor can you react the same way as always, if you have the same experience.
You can enjoy something today and respond according to messed. Tomorrow you can have the same experience and remained silent. This does not mean necessarily that you learned something from the experience from the previous day. You may not have. It may be too tired to maintain, or simply no longer depends on the situation.
As for you and your cancer, where you want to be on the scale of emotions? It seems like a silly question, right? But the fact that most of us never thought this question.
Here's some cancer information for you-if you don't know that there are a variety of emotions, so how would you ever top cancer range of emotion? And if you don't have the objective to strive, so how would it ever be achieved?
What about this surprising information on cancer-today I categorically say that I'm happy about my experience of cancer! How is it possible that you might ask? Well, it's like this. I learned many wonderful things about myself during my experience of cancer.
I learned that I have the courage. I learned that it can focus on and achieve the objectives I think about my future. And, most importantly, I learned that I had strength of character.
I never really realized that I possess these properties. And Yes-if you already have-I had unresolved emotional issues such as lack of itself is worth.
I never realized what I was capable of. So if "test" the cancer appeared I swore I would beat him. And I did. It's what I learned about myself. I learned that I was able to pick up, make the decision yourself and succeed.
For me it was cancer, life changing experience. But make no mistake, it's for the better! Cancer happened to me, I'd still "walking universality"-nowhere!
Inadvertently cancer gave my life's direction. I am able to say now.
It was not always the case however. At the beginning I started down the path at the bottom end of the scale of emotions in depression. Over time, I was able to lift himself and now I'm happy with my experience. I'm happy, because I know that the result of the cancer experience was positive in my life.
I'm saying that it was such a good experience, you will want to again have cancer? It is a resounding no! Once was enough, thank you. I learned from the experience of cancer for the first time.
Effectively addresses the emotions and feelings is something never taught in school. Say that we have learned from the social conditioning, from our parents and teachers. But often the results of the experiences of his childhood was that we to suppress the to learn how our feelings and emotions.
What you must do is better , about his experiences, even slightly better. And keep this new reference point, until a better feeling. Note that said that the aim is to OK feel, about your experiences of cancer. It will come in time.
Have you learned something about yourself during the experience of cancer? The experience gave new direction to your life? New meaning? What pearls of wisdom you application to cancer?
Feeling that better relates to you and only you. You can't control other people. So, dealing with your loved ones emotions can sometimes be more difficult than their own. It may be more difficult, because certainly you cannot change the way you think.
Here is a prime example. When I was diagnosed with cancer, relatives often-almost insist-that's my wife, Barbara, make sure that I was good and that everything will be fine. Note that it was never asked about me.
You know, when the family is the crisis, many look the strongest person in their emotional support. In this case, Barbara was seen as the strongest (outside myself) and relatives turned to her for comfort and support.
But they did it unwittingly Barbara may have be lean. Must understand that to find out the beloved's cancer is devastating for everyone involved.
Not everyone is able to provide meaningful support to those who need it. Not everyone is able to be positive, or even just maintain a "neutral" position. Not everyone is able to rise to the occasion. It's unfortunate. But that's just the way it is sometimes life. Nobody's perfect.
"But just......".If only we could ......., why not. ... ". Such thinking only increases their emotional stress. Don't think in this way, you are not. And to help the markets. Accept people for where. They do what they can.
Note that others around you are also hurt. To understand that others may not be able to support you. I understand that you may have to support them. May not be fair. Some days trying to support yourself. It's all right. To realize that all are in emotional pain.
Tell people about yourself, how you feel. Tell them that you love them. Communication can help to mitigate and reduce stress with cancer and fear of the unknown. And that goes for everyone involved. Let's face it, nobody wants to lose you. And what is worse, no one wants to deal with the experience.
It's what my wife and I had seen, and what we learned. And now we have to teach others to do the same.
Now is the time for patience with everyone. Including you. Love and love others. Information from their own experiences. Embrace learning. And I know that people around you love. Are not perfect, but I like them.
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